So, unless you live under a rock deeper than mine (which is impossible), you’ve heard about Beyoncé’s Lemonade album.
It is art. Just pure, beautiful art. As a lover and writer of poetry, I was SUPER thrilled about the whole concept, and the amazing way it was put together. I’ll admit, I think I was truly converted to a member of her Queendom. I understand the hype about her now, she deserves it.
HOWEVER my problem here has absolutely nothing to do with the album. It is the way in which the ‘Beyhive’ reacted to the ‘Becky’ thing.
Classic sexism: go find and shame and ‘drag’ the hoe who slept with him (whether I believe that rumor or not is irrelevant). The point is, her fans went and tracked down a woman who allegedly slept with Beyoncé’s partner of OVER FIFTEEN YEARS, leaving the partner shade-free. Honestly, the only memes I saw about Jay-Z were making fun of the fact that she exposed him.
Jay-Z was condemned for being caught and exposed, not for actually cheating.
Assuming the rumours are true, is tracking down the woman who slept with her man the best way to defend Beyoncé? Because women are supposed to have the basic morality from which men are apparently exempt? So, questioning and condemning the man who actually betrayed her didn’t quite cross people’s minds? She had a partnership with Jay-Z, naahht with Becky/Whateverthefuckhernameis. Sure, this chick KNEW he had a wife, so basic morality wasn’t quite ruling her life, but she’s not the one who cheated. Jay-Z is. Are we scared of him? Are we scared of actually shaming a heterosexual man for his sexual conduct?
I guess so. So, we go to what we know. Shaming women for having sex. Ooh yes, we do that all the time and it’s a good story so let’s do that!
C’mon guys. If women are expected to not sleep with already-committed men, then already-committed men should be expected not to sleep around.
What do we think equality is?